A married woman can is likely to take her marriage seriously and may not be interested in having extramarital affairs for the complications they bring. Posting love quotes or sending sweet-nothing texts will only make you look immature and she may reject you outright. You have to make her like you and your company, and then tell her you are interested in her. By genuinely approaching her and creatively impressing her, chances are she may be into you already before you ask her out. If you are strongly attracted to a married woman, you will be thinking of ways to seduce her.

But the truth is that even the happiest marriages , can be rocked by cheating. Loneliness plays a role, as does boredom and alcohol. Cheating wives and cheating husbands have their reasons. Maybe a close relationship with a colleague goes too far during a long night at the office. Or an unexpected fling occurs on a vacation with friends. Infidelity is almost predictable.

For about a decade I mostly slept with married women. Even now, nearly 20 years since the last time I did so, when I think of these affairs my mouth goes dry with excitement. The affairs began when I was A married woman who was a friend of my family started to take a great deal of interest in me.

This week, a married woman flirting over Facebook and making lunch dates with men she meets at the gym: 45, married, Upper West Side. I want to have an affair. We have our kids, our home, our jobs … I would like to add a little danger to the mix.