At certain times, fast and furious is necessary; for others, the longer it takes, the better it is. Of course, marathon sessions are a little less plausible for those with kids at home. And once it happens, sex is often over. After ejaculation, men go through a refractory period where they are unable to achieve another erection for a certain length of time women have little to no refractory period. But first, a friendly reminder from Dr. Carol Queen, the staff sexologist over at Good Vibrations.

You could be suffering from performance anxiety, stress, premature ejaculation, or erectile dysfunction if you lose your erection during sex. The good news is that there are a variety of behavioural changes and prescription treatments which can help you last longer in bed. Practically every man will have experienced some form of performance anxiety. Normally it is nothing to worry about. However sometimes anxiety can develop into premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. Premature ejaculation PE is a very common problem, and one which affects most men at some point.

But sex… should not be one of those things. Everyone has a different definition of what sex means to them. In this context specifically, it's important to keep in mind that "sex" doesn't only mean strictly p-in-v action. It can also include loads, and loads, and loads of foreplay , kissing, massaging , etc.

One of the most frustrating afflictions that can befall a man is premature ejaculation. It's embarrassing, it's unexpected, and it turns what is supposed to be one life's greatest joys into one of life's greatest disappointments. No one wants to have to say I'm sorry at any point before, during, or after sex. But men should know that while yes, PE can be incredibly frustrating, it's also incredibly common.